As women, we’ve been conditioned to take care of everybody else. We feel it’s expected of us and there’s a lot of guilt involved in this. It almost seems sacrilegious to think “What about me?” Then there’s even more guilt! Guilt seems to be the underlying emotion relating to all of this. This month, I want us to take a look at that guilt and be able to move past it so that we can allow ourselves to be healthier and that, in turn, will lead to healthier families. Let’s look at that dreaded word “self-care”.
I went to a get together a friend of mine put on this week and heard a really sad comment by one of the ladies there regarding self-care. We were talking about friendships. She said that she’s so busy with all her responsibilities at work and with her kids that she notices that she purposely pushes other people away for fear of disappointing them. She knows she doesn’t have the energy to really invest in friendships right now and so avoids them.
Our world is stressful. Anyone disagree with that? So want to know how to relieve stress? It’s easy to find yourself tied up in knots over just about anything if you’re not careful. It takes a conscious decision to shield yourself from the chaos that surrounds us each and every day. I’d like to share a new “shield” I’ve been practicing so that you too can give it a try if it sounds like a good fit for you!
Resentment. It’s such an ugly word. You don’t usually think of it when considering how to find happiness! But it’s critical to the process! Let me show you how…
I will be the first to admit that self-care does not come natural for me! I am your “Type A, push through ‘til you drop, make it perfect or else” – kinda girl! Grasping the importance of self-care is something I’ve had to learn. I usually do a pretty good job with it, because I’ve learned (the hard way) that it’s a necessity if I’m going to be the mom, wife and overall person I want to be. But…. I still have my moments.
Peace of mind often feels like a pipe dream that other people get to experience. But that doesn’t have to be YOUR reality! It is possible to experience it on a regular basis. You’re probably asking, “How?” about this time, aren’t you?
Have you ever realized how hard it is to take care of you when you don’t make it a priority? There’s always “stuff” to be done. Kids need rides. The house gets dirty. Groceries get eaten. But what about you? How much do you make taking care of you a priority? It needs to be a conscious decision or it flat out won’t happen! Something more important will come up. I’ve written volumes about the importance of self-care here and how it’s not a selfish act, so I won’t beat that dead horse again.
Leaving a legacy we can be proud of is a huge part of the mission of Vibrantly Live. Part of doing that is teaching the importance of self-care not only for us, as moms, but also for our children.
I had a difficult decision I was struggling with last month. I kept spinning my wheels going round and round trying to make a decision about moving forward. I kept lamenting: “How can I build confidence in making this decision?” I was stuck in this cycle for over 2 months. I’d been actively praying for direction, and little things had happened to show me I was on track.
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Everyday life can drain our physical energy, leaving us fatigued. But emotional energy is rather different. It is more a sense of happiness and hopefulness. This week I want to look at 3 different ways to be happy more often and boost your emotional energy.
This month we’re going to take a good look at the Vibrantly Live principle of self-care. Specifically, I want to focus on something we use constantly, and say we never have enough of – ENERGY!