Are you longing for more meaningful relationships? A good place to start is with the people you love. These are the people who matter to you and you matter to them. I had an interesting revelation last night I wanted to share with you.
I’ve known my husband for over 20 years. Sometimes we swear we can read each other’s minds. But honestly, I think it’s that we know how to read one another’s non-verbal signals very well. He came into a room I was in and sat down. I knew he needed to talk about something. I could tell it was important. I had stuff to do, but I paused to give him what he needed.
This level of connection isn’t something you can just pick up or be able to do after just meeting someone. Nope! It requires a tuning in. Too often, we’re busy wondering what we’re going to get out of relationships with people that we forget the importance of really pouring into other’s lives. That’s where the heart of meaningful relationships really lies.
I hear people complain every day about feeling alone or that no one “gets” them. I frequently like to ask “How are you investing in others?” I don’t mean it in a confrontational sort of way. It’s more about giving and receiving.
We can all point fingers and blame others for needs that haven’t been met or various injured feelings. But the truth is, if you want to have meaningful relationships, you’ve got to be willing to let go of your agenda and really focus in on another.
So start observing today in order to look for patterns. My husband will yawn, when he starts to say something and changes his mind. I’ve noticed my daughter’s voice pattern and volume changes when she wants to ask something but isn’t sure how it will be received. My son will suddenly get cuddly when he needs attention and is going to ask to do something with me.
How about you & yours? What do they do to “let you know” they need something? Are you tuning in close enough to see the signs? Observing and anticipating these will allow you to grow closer and build more meaningful relationships with the ones who are most important to you.