I’ve been asked repeatedly “What are the nuggets that you most frequently share with the ladies you work with?” So I decided to share 4 life lessons I’ve learned in over 15 years of working with women and nearly that long being a mom. If you’ve ever wondered, “How do I know if I’m making a difference and living a life of purpose?” then listen up, this is for you!
- Determine what’s truly important – In order to live a life of purpose, you need to know where you’re going, you have to clearly identify the direction first! As women, we tend to over commit ourselves a lot. This leads to feeling burned out and that we’re not capable of doing things well. The real issue is that you may not be making time for those things that are really important.
- Develop a self-care program – Quick! On a scale of 1-10 how good of a job are you doing taking care of yourself? No cheating! Most of us women do a lousy job at this. We tend to put our needs last. We’re real good at taking care of everyone else, but lousy when it comes to our needs. This leads to exhaustion and frustration.
- Discover your purpose – Only once you’re clear on who you are (#1) and regularly taking care of yourself (#2) can you honestly start figuring what a life of purpose looks like for you. There’s just too much junk in the way before then. Now, don’t fall into the trap that a lot of women fall into. “Purpose” doesn’t have to be this be-all/end-all thing. Instead it’s more about “Where am I supposed to be right now?” “What should I be doing at this stage in my life, and with whom?” ”Who do I want to be?”
- Develop meaningful relationships with those you love – C’mon ladies – we know how important our relationships are! These can be with our spouses, kids, friends, co-workers, you name it! But making sure we’re able to set appropriate boundaries, make conscious decisions about who we spend time with, and feeling more connected to those around us are critical.
So, there you are. These are the foundation of all the work I do with my clients as we move through The Vibrantly Live System™. I always ask the moms I work with to evaluate where they feel they are on a scale of 1 (lowest) to 10 (highest) in each of these categories. So, how about you? How are you doing in each of these? Which is your strongest and which area needs the most improvement in order to move you into a life of purpose?